Beyond Perfection: Navigating Rejection On The Road To Authenticity – Imagine walking into a busy room full of people. You slow your stride to a near stop as you notice the faces of those around you turning to meet your eye. Everyone is looking at you. Does imagining this situation cause your heart to race with excitement, curiosity, and fear, or are you a deer in the headlights frozen in place, blinded by the light? If the excitement turns to fear or anxiety, then standing out or being fully seen may be a large culprit, causing you to default to people-pleasing behaviors or holding you back from fully living and crafting a life that’s truly going to be good for you.
Breaking Free From The Shackles Of Social Ideals To Embrace Your Authenticity. How often are you so well-behaved that you neglect yourself in the process? When does pushing down your authentic expression override who you are? As the sun grows hotter and we hit the peak of summer are you still waiting for the perfect body, to be comfortable in your skin or editing yourself into a more acceptable version for others, despite your own comfort?
This idea of what is considered good is a social blueprint of acceptable behavior and can often become a leash of propriety. This invisible ideal that we carry with us is like carrying bricks in a backpack. Unless you are a Master Mason, why carry bricks at all?
Embracing Imperfection: The Key To Self Love & Belonging In A Perfectly Imperfect World.
What if having the right people in your life and a thriving community was one action away? What if the actions you took required you to be fully seen for the wired, unpredictable, sometimes messy, unlikeable person you hide? Would you really even hesitate? Every time you suppress yourself to fit into someone else’s box of ideal standards, this is, in fact, the exile you are aligning yourself to.
From People Pleasing & Scarcity To Inner Alignment
As an Alignment and Embodiment guide with over 16 years of specializing in long-term chronic pain, I knew the body was keeping much more than the score. Helping people shift their instinctive reactions to reprogram their Emotional Architecture and overcome lifelong blocks is where I place my focus. It’s how our actions are animated by the body that gets recorded into instinct and is often the most misinterpreted language of the body. Embracing the audacity to set aside social norms to fully embrace who you authentically are is the most freeing action you could ever set into motion.
There is something in the confidence that comes across in the most wildly unexpected statements, movements, and expressions. The lack of fear and the ease of handling rejection, in itself, is at the heart of that confidence. Strangers often don’t know how to respond for fear of answering wrong or exposing their own internalized lack and social ideals. While others will engage and turn the moment into a revealing act of self-authority, changing the direction of the conversation into a dance amongst the unknown.
The simplicity of embracing the wild nature of facing rejection over the often more acceptable self-abandonment that comes along with being perfectly acceptable can be intoxicating, allowing life to transform into a living art form of self-acceptance.
Beyond perfection: Navigating Rejection On The Road To Authenticity.
A fear or rejection at its core is a hardwired instinct to survive. In communal society, it was important to be accepted as each community member relied on the other for the survival of the whole village. Nowadays, a fear of rejection is just an aversion to the experience of embarrassment. Here are a few tips to help you embrace the unknown and overcome a fear of rejection or abandonment.
1: Employ Self Compassion.
Give yourself a little grace, and remember that this is part of learning. Those around you will be concerned and try to gauge your reaction to the situation to understand how to support you. This ultimately leaves you in the driver’s seat, you can allow the moment to pull you apart at the seams or you can be the creative force embracing the lesson hidden inside your next big breakthrough. This will help reduce the sting of embarrassment and keep the mind from ruminating on the experience.
2: Widen your perspective.
Embarrassment is an awkward emotion that tends to recruit other emotions to cover itself up. It can drive a feeling of fleeing, running away, hiding your face, or redirecting blame and anger onto others. Try to allow this feeling to wash over you and disconnect from the thoughts fueling the embarrassment. Focus on what feels okay or is going on right around you.
Notice the sensations for what they are—just a passing instinct. Give permission and be open to what’s happening in the present. Those around you will be trying to gauge your reaction to the situation. This ultimately leaves you in the driver’s seat. You can allow the moment to pull you apart at the seams, or you can be the creative force embracing the lesson hidden inside your next big breakthrough.
3: Lean in and get rejected.
The process of learning is like gymnastics; it’s a series of controlled falls. You are going to fail in life, and one of the biggest predictors of success is the willingness to try. Leaning into rejection is a willingness to put yourself out there and go after what you want. Nothing is ever obtained by waiting for perfection, progress is only truly made by moving forward ready or not. The more you expose yourself to potential success, the more success you will find.
Invitation To Elevate
Actively creating your life may lead to setbacks like rejection and failure, but embracing yourself is key to self-love and belonging. It is truly an invitation to elevate your life. Click the link or scan the QR code to join our monthly Elevation Sessions for deeper exploration. Remember, the journey continues, but each step brings you closer to fulfillment and real connections. Keep exploring, growing, and embracing your Authentic Self.
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