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Finding Your “Green Flag” in a Sea of Red Flag Relationships

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Finding Your “Green Flag” in a Sea of Red Flag Relationships – Let’s face it: dating these days can feel like playing a game of “Guess the Red Flag.” Maybe you’ve mastered spotting the telltale signs—like when they still text their ex, tell “jokes” that make your skin crawl, or have a surprisingly intense relationship with their mom (we all know that one). But with all these glaring red flags, it’s easy to wonder if anyone is waving a green one. Spoiler alert: they are! They’re just a little harder to spot. But once you learn how, your dating life is about to get a whole lot easier, funnier, and more fulfilling.

Step One: Recognize the Red Flags—They’re Everywhere!

Before we get into finding green flags, let’s enjoy a little roast of the infamous red flags we all know and loathe.

Does any of this sound familiar?

  1. The “Fast and Furious” Flag: If they start planning your honeymoon before the appetizer arrives, run. Sure, it’s great to find someone who knows what they want, but if they’re saying, “We’d make cute babies!” before learning your middle name, they’re probably diving too deep, too fast.
  2. The “Perpetual Peter Pan” Flag: This is the one who’s always planning to “get their life together”—one day. They have big dreams, like moving out of their parents’ basement and maybe even saving a little money. Until then, you’ll be picking up the tab on everything from dinner to rent.
  3. The “Over-Sharing Online” Flag: Look, we all have opinions. But when their social media reads like a manifesto with daily rants, vague subtweets, or TikTok videos featuring angry car rants, they might just have a little too much personal processing to do. If these red flags are all too familiar, then you’re already halfway to identifying what not to look for. But now, let’s switch things up—because there are green flags out there, and they’re the ones you don’t want to overlook.
Step Two: Green Flags You’ve Been Missing All Along

Green flags are subtle and much less flashy than their red counterparts. But they’re the foundation of healthy, long-lasting relationships, and once you learn to spot them, you’ll wonder how you missed them all this time.

  • 1. They Communicate Like a Pro: Real talk: when was the last time someone asked how you were feeling? If they listen to you and communicate their feelings in a calm, non-defensive way, that’s not just a green flag—it’s the holy grail. True communication involves two people expressing their needs, apologizing when necessary, and being open to feedback. If they do this, it’s a sign they know how to navigate the tricky parts of a relationship without throwing in the towel at the first sign of trouble.
  • 2. They Respect Your Time and Space: Have you ever been with someone who always wanted to hang out, text, or even FaceTime while you’re at the grocery store? Relationships need time to breathe, and healthy people understand that space is necessary. They have their own lives, hobbies, and goals, and they support you in having yours. Independence? It’s a major green flag.
  • 3. They’re Supportive and Kind (Even When You’re Struggling): Life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes, it’s bad days, late-night worries, and “why am I crying over a commercial” moments. Someone who can handle your occasional breakdown with empathy and support rather than confusion or avoidance is a keeper. When someone genuinely cares about your well-being and doesn’t make you feel like a burden for sharing, that’s a person who’s in it for the long haul.
  • 4. They’re Consistent (Yes, Consistency Is Sexy): There’s something extremely underrated about someone who’s simply… consistent. They don’t vanish for three days without explanation, they don’t cancel plans at the last second, and they don’t play mind games. They show up when they say they will and follow through on promises, both big and small. Consistency is one of the biggest green flags there is, and it’s the best antidote to red-flag whiplash.
  • 5. They Laugh at Themselves (and at Your Jokes): A good sense of humor goes a long way, but if they’re comfortable enough to laugh at themselves and find joy in the everyday, that’s a green flag waving. They can handle a little self-deprecating humor and see the funny side of life. Bonus points if they think you’re hilarious—even when your jokes are… a work in progress.
Step Three: Embrace Your Own Green Flags

Here’s the kicker: you need to be someone else’s green flag, too. That means working on things like communication, respecting boundaries, being kind, and staying consistent. We attract what we are, so keep honing those traits you want in others!

Once you’re seeing red flags for what they are and noticing green flags with newfound clarity, it might be time to take things to the next level with some professional guidance.

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Dr. Cali Estes Can Help You Find Your Green Flags!

Ready to break free from your red-flag-laden past and finally find the healthy, green-flag relationship you deserve? Dr. Cali Estes is here to help. As a relationship and life coach, she’s a pro at helping people sift through their dating lives, cut out toxic patterns, and learn what matters in a partnership.

Dr. Estes can guide you through those dating pitfalls, help you set healthy boundaries, and teach you how to find and foster connections with green-flag people. With her expertise, you can finally stop dating the red-flag parade and start enjoying a relationship that’s supportive, fun, and aligned with your values.

So, are you ready to leave red-flag relationships in the past? Contact Dr. Cali Estes for a coaching session today! She’ll help you dive deep, discover what you truly need in a partner, and teach you how to spot (and become) those green flags. Your future self will thank you.

Embrace the green flags and wave goodbye to the red—it’s time to upgrade your love life!

Well, you know it ends. The question is, how did we get here? The saying goes, ‘There are only 3 ways out of addiction: death, institutions, and jail.’ Tim managed all of them in one lifetime.


This book is the raw, uncut truth behind what happened that led to his death. Multiple overdoses, car crashes, hit-and-runs, police arrests, and even SWAT were no match for his addiction. IF that doesn’t shock you, what happened AFTER he died will.

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finding your “green flag” in a sea of red flag relationships – let’s face it: dating these days can feel like playing a game of “guess the red flag.” maybe you’ve mastered spotting the telltale signs—like when they still text their ex, tell “jokes” that make your skin crawl, or have a surprisingly intense relationship with their mom (we all know that one). but with all these glaring red flags, it’s easy to wonder if anyone is waving a green one. spoiler alert: they are! they’re just a little harder to spot. but once you learn how, your dating life is about to get a whole lot easier, funnier, and more fulfilling. step one: recognize the red flags—they’re everywhere! before we get into finding green flags, let’s enjoy a little roast of the infamous red flags we all know and loathe. does any of this sound familiar? the “fast and furious” flag: if they start planning your honeymoon before the appetizer arrives, run. sure, it’s great to find someone who knows what they want, but if they’re saying, “we’d make cute babies!” before learning your middle name, they’re probably diving too deep, too fast. the “perpetual peter pan” flag: this is the one who’s always planning to “get their life together”—one day. they have big dreams, like moving out of their parents’ basement and maybe even saving a little money. until then, you’ll be picking up the tab on everything from dinner to rent. the “over-sharing online” flag: look, we all have opinions. but when their social media reads like a manifesto with daily rants, vague subtweets, or tiktok videos featuring angry car rants, they might just have a little too much personal processing to do. if these red flags are all too familiar, then you’re already halfway to identifying what not to look for. but now, let’s switch things up—because there are green flags out there, and they’re the ones you don’t want to overlook. step two: green flags you’ve been missing all along. green flags are subtle and much less flashy than their red counterparts. but they’re the foundation of healthy, long-lasting relationships, and once you learn to spot them, you’ll wonder how you missed them all this time. 1. they communicate like a pro: real talk: when was the last time someone asked how you were feeling? if they listen to you and communicate their feelings in a calm, non-defensive way, that’s not just a green flag—it’s the holy grail. true communication involves two people expressing their needs, apologizing when necessary, and being open to feedback. if they do this, it’s a sign they know how to navigate the tricky parts of a relationship without throwing in the towel at the first sign of trouble. 2. they respect your time and space: have you ever been with someone who always wanted to hang out, text, or even facetime while you’re at the grocery store? relationships need time to breathe, and healthy people understand that space is necessary. they have their own lives, hobbies, and goals, and they support you in having yours. independence? it’s a major green flag. 3. they’re supportive and kind (even when you’re struggling): life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. sometimes, it’s bad days, late-night worries, and “why am i crying over a commercial” moments. someone who can handle your occasional breakdown with empathy and support rather than confusion or avoidance is a keeper. when someone genuinely cares about your well-being and doesn’t make you feel like a burden for sharing, that’s a person who’s in it for the long haul. 4. they’re consistent (yes, consistency is sexy): there’s something extremely underrated about someone who’s simply… consistent. they don’t vanish for three days without explanation, they don’t cancel plans at the last second, and they don’t play mind games. they show up when they say they will and follow through on promises, both big and small. consistency is one of the biggest green flags there is, and it’s the best antidote to red-flag whiplash. 5. they laugh at themselves (and at your jokes): a good sense of humor goes a long way, but if they’re comfortable enough to laugh at themselves and find joy in the everyday, that’s a green flag waving. they can handle a little self-deprecating humor and see the funny side of life. bonus points if they think you’re hilarious—even when your jokes are… a work in progress. step three: embrace your own green flags. here’s the kicker: you need to be someone else’s green flag, too. that means working on things like communication, respecting boundaries, being kind, and staying consistent. we attract what we are, so keep honing those traits you want in others! once you’re seeing red flags for what they are and noticing green flags with newfound clarity, it might be time to take things to the next level with some professional guidance. dr. cali estes can help you find your green flags! ready to break free from your red-flag-laden past and finally find the healthy, green-flag relationship you deserve? dr. cali estes is here to help. as a relationship and life coach, she’s a pro at helping people sift through their dating lives, cut out toxic patterns, and learn what matters in a partnership. dr. estes can guide you through those dating pitfalls, help you set healthy boundaries, and teach you how to find and foster connections with green-flag people. with her expertise, you can finally stop dating the red-flag parade and start enjoying a relationship that’s supportive, fun, and aligned with your values. so, are you ready to leave red-flag relationships in the past? contact dr. cali estes for a coaching session today ! she’ll help you dive deep, discover what you truly need in a partner, and teach you how to spot (and become) those green flags. your future self will thank you. embrace the green flags and wave goodbye to the red—it’s time to upgrade your love life! well, you know it ends. the question is, how did we get here? the saying goes, ‘there are only 3 ways out of addiction: death, institutions, and jail.’ tim managed all of them in one lifetime. this book is the raw, uncut truth behind what happened that led to his death. multiple overdoses, car crashes, hit-and-runs, police arrests, and even swat were no match for his addiction. if that doesn’t shock you, what happened after he died will. authors note:. ready to learn more about how to create abundance, wealth, and happiness? our unpause your life knowledge nuggets are easily digestible bites of wisdom to help you achieve your goals of wealth, abundance, and happiness. define you, not break you, as you step into the new year. connect with dr. cali estes. read more articles from our vip executive contributor, dr. cali estes.
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